But sometimes I think it’s okay (and important) to talk about the difficult parts, too. The moments that you feel exhausted, overwhelmed, and overworked. We all have them, and we all deserve to, without feeling bad about it. And the entire reason I write that is to remind myself of exactly that.
I had a few difficult days in a row a couple weeks ago, pretty much a string of hard moments that usually aren’t that big of a deal but for whatever reason, they were. Waverly was being “three”, Avalon was being mobile & shutting her fingers in drawer after drawer, the house was a mess, and I felt like I couldn’t keep up with anything, work or home related. I found myself counting down the minutes until nap or bedtime and then, feeling the biggest case of mom guilt ever for it. Which of course made everything worse, until finally, I unraveled. I officially lost my patience, raised my voice more then I should have with Waverly, sat Avalon in her crib and just walked away to give myself a little time-out of my own.
As horrible as it felt to hit such a low, I look back now & am so glad I did. Sometimes it takes moments like that to build yourself back up, and while you are at it, to give yourself some grace. I think as moms that we all put way too much pressure on ourselves (I’m at the front of the line), and that at the end of the day, we need to remind ourselves that there is no reason to be ashamed or feel bad for feeling tired or overwhelmed. We are human, and most importantly, we are not alone. For every moment that you feel that way, there’s another mama somewhere feeling exactly the same way, we are all in this together and we will all push through together! 🙂
I’m reminded all of the time of how incredibly resilient children are. I felt so bad for losing my patience with my girls & was positive that they would remember it forever. Of course, Waverly came running in within minutes wanting me to play tea party and dolls with her, telling me how much she loved me & saying “mommy, I missded you”. Avalon was coming in for kisses, her new favorite party trick that seriously melts me every time. I’m not always perfect, but to them, I am. And there is no better feeling than that.
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Wishing all of the moms out there the happiest Mother’s Day week! You are strong, beautiful rock stars – and I promise you, your little ones are positive that you hung the moon. Even on the days that you definitely don’t feel that way about yourself. Lots of love & hugs from me to you! XO