Being Brickner : May 2014

Thursday, May 29, 2014

One Year & Beyond: Dealing with Advice

First, the biggest thank you to those who have participated in this One Year & Beyond Link-up.  Whether you posted or simply left feedback on the topics shared so far, I have found the support between so many inspiring ladies very rewarding.  As mamas, I definitely think it is important to relate to each other (the good, the bad, & the ugly), & as always, this community does that so incredibly well.  Waverly Maye & I are lucky to be a part of it. :)
 
 
So that really brings me to my thoughts on advice & how to deal with it.  I definitely agree that the minute you get pregnant, there are 1.2 million people (some just walking by you in Target), that have an opinion on just about everything that has to do with motherhood.  It can seriously be frustrating, I'm thinking the worst being the horror labor stories you get when your belly is so big the baby could fall out at any moment.
 
Yet honestly, in most cases, I welcome advice with open arms.  More every day, I realize that being a mom is a constant learning experience.  What works for us one day may not work then next, & more often than not, I overcome one challenge to discover another.  It takes a serious open mind & truly, being able to admit when you could do better or that you need help.  I love getting feedback from other mamas, hearing what works for them or if nothing else, that they went through something similar.  Because letsbehonest, you can feel pretty damn alone when your baby has been crying in the middle of the night for a few hours straight (if that had ever happened to anyone else, there would never be parents with more than one child, right?!).
 
 If you read any of my posts last week, you know we had a rough one.  Seriously, Waverly Maye gave me a total run for my money.  So much so, I was that mom at the park Friday afternoon (4pm) with a beer in hand.  Fast forward to this week, she has never been sweeter.  Believe me, I was totally prepared after reading three discipline books & locating a new spot for time-out.  Yet so far, she has been a rock-star toddler & I'm convinced is laughing about how hard she had me working a few days ago. :)
 
 
For those who want to join in on the fun of this series, see this post for information & future topics!  We hope you are all having a lovely short week!!  I'm thinking we should roll with this 4-day week from now on, it really works for us!
XOXO
 

From Here to EternityWords About Waverly

my delicious adventure Photobucket
My Delicious Adventure                  The Life Of Faith

Running From The LawThe Olive Tree

         
An InLinkz Link-up

Tuesday, May 27, 2014

It's The Little Things: Week Seventeen

We had the most incredible weekend, one of those that you never want to end & also, that you need another one right after to recover from. ;)  It really was the most fun, the weather could not have been better & it was the perfect start to what I know is going to be one memorable summer.


I'm pretty sure my smile running out of work Friday afternoon was even bigger than the one Waverly gets going down the slide lately.  And that is saying something, the slide brings my girl some serious smiles. :)  We were very ready for a three-day weekend, & kicked it off with a fro-yo date followed by one at the park.  Waverly was obsessed with another little girl she met on the jungle gym, she named her "Mimi" & kept repeating it while giving her the biggest hugs ever.  The girl's name was Catherine & she was 3, luckily she was also as sweet as can be & let Waverly give her a new name for the entire afternoon.

Waverly has been asking for "Mimi" ever since, her & "Bobby" get way more conversation time than anyone else lately.  Oh, how I love this child (& her imagination)!


We spent the majority of our weekend grilling out with loved ones, eating, drinking & celebrating entirely too much.  Just the way warm weather weekends should be, right?!  Waverly had an absolute blast, she loved every minute of all the extra people to entertain her & obviously, decided not to nap because she didn't want to miss a thing.  By late Sunday afternoon, we debated leaving her at home with our in-laws rather than taking her to another cookout.  I was convinced she would breakdown at any moment from major lack of sleep yet ultimately, we took her & she partied like a rock star. 
I'm sure I'll regret it when Waverly decides to never nap again, but at the time it was well-worth it.


In food news, I was really excited to attempt to expand my cooking skills with a new side dish this weekend.  I'm starting to think that the boxed pasta salad I've been showing up with for a few years now is really getting old.  I saw this recipe on Natalie's blog a couple of weeks ago, I love a cold dish in the summer & this corn salad seemed easy enough.  It was super delicious, we made it for two seperate cookouts & it was a hit at both.


Lastly, I couldn't resist a festive brunch for our little family on Sunday morning before we hit the beach.  These "mini" waffles are perfect for toddler fingers, they are a go-to for Waverly's breakfast each day.  Sometimes she just sucks the syrup out of them, but most days, we consider them a win!  She also loves strawberries & blueberries, watermelon was a favorite last year but this time, she said "EW!" if they were anywhere near her plate.  Toddlers. :)

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Overall, such a great weekend full of "little" moments & memories that I know will last forever.  I just keep thinking that these are the days, I don't think life can get much better than this. :)

Jess & I want to thank you for your participation of this link-up each week! If you need a reminder on how to participate, see this post.  We don't have a giveaway this week, if you are interested in working with us in giving back to our readers please email me at akwright@vbschools.com or Jess at jess@sadieskyboutique.com
Hope you are having a great week!


Monday, May 26, 2014

Waverly's 22-Month Update

I've started referring to Waverly as "almost two" when people ask now, I was holding strong with the month thing but had gotten one too many confused looks so I decided it was time. ;)  Yet for here (where so much more goes, thank you for that), happiest 22 months to Waverly Maye!!  We are so excited to celebrate another milestone with you & of course, to ring in the BIG TWO in only a short couple of months. :)
 

Stats:  Waverly is wearing mostly 18-24 month old pieces, but we have brought out her summer dresses from last year & even though most are 12 month, they fit!  We of course don't mind getting some more use out of them & oh how much we love a good summer dress.  Another favorite for this time of year is rompers, this green one is one of our all-time faves.  Waverly's hair continues to get longer each day, so I am obsessed with her hair in piggies & bows, we love this strawberry one from The Prettiest Bow.


Favorite Words & Phrases:  So, so many, I really can't keep up!!  Some of her current favorite words are ... yea, no (usually followed by mama), yay, dada, edamame, eat, more & "AC's" (to let us know she wants to do her alphabet puzzle).  Waverly can pretty much name everyone in our immediate families, many of them she has given new names to that don't even come close to their actual ones, but I guess that comes with being the first grandchild on my side.  Also, she repeats "Bobby" throughout the day & laughs uncontrollably pretty much each time.  For the record, we don't know a Bobby & we have no idea where it came from, but my husband says when he finds out, "Bobby" is seriously in trouble.


Favorite Foods:  Still obsessed with edamame over here.  I had gotten into the habit of making it as a side to her dinner for a solid month straight & decided it was time for some creativity, so I gave her broccoli instead the other night.  Waverly's world came crashing down as she repeated "edamame" for the duration of our dinner so obviously, I've made edamame every night since. ;)

Favorite Activities:  Waverly loves life & is excited about so many things right now!!  The biggest change I have noticed lately is how much more independent she has become, which can be a good & bad thing.  She knows exactly what she wants to do (& how she wants to do it) pretty much all of the time.  Some of her favorite current activities are hanging in her playhouse, riding in dada's truck, playing with mama's jewelry, chasing the dog around the house, trying on shoes, or most recently, spraying the hose.  She has become more interested in coloring (though mostly the walls) & will "read" her books while sitting on her playroom floor.  Listening to her with her books is too precious, sometimes she prefers to be left alone so I sit outside the door. Of course her love for "swiiiings" continues, she also loves to sit on her dada's shoulders.  Both are the only two activities that will keep her still. ;) 


Favorite Things:  I'm about to restock both our board book & puzzle collection, they are a daily go-to & definitely are at the top of the list of Waverly's favorite things.  Ideas & suggestions of your favorites are welcome!  Other favorites are the Ipad (we try to not use it often, but have found some really great toddler apps), her wagon & really any other moving objects, & a recent new addition, a step stool that she points to & says "hands". 

Latest Moves:   Waverly loves people, she will say "hi" & wave to anyone we see all day long.  She also has the best dance moves, which she performs all of the time but especially when her favorite song plays on Sesame Street.  That's when she really breaks it down.  Her love for her baby dolls continues to melt me, she will feed them, talk to them, & rock them throughout the day.  They even get to "eat" some of her edamame & believe me, that says something.


I've mentioned recently that Waverly has been going though a trying phase the past couple of weeks.  We have certainly had our fair share of rough moments lately, but ultimately, her love for life & overall sweet nature make even the hard days well worth it.  Together we are figuring out how to handle these moments of frustration & already have made some major progress.  I have found that honestly, moments like these make our relationship that much stronger. :)
Waverly Maye, we love you more than you will ever know.  Happy 22 months, sweet girl!
 
PS - We hope everyone had the most festive, fun-filled weekend!!  Happy Memorial Day to all of you, & thank you to all those who have served, are serving, or have given their lives for our freedom.


Thursday, May 22, 2014

One Year & Beyond: Mom Guilt

It's funny how timing works, the topic "mom guilt" has been more relevant than ever for me the last few days.  To keep it real, it's been one of those weeks.  We kicked it off with Waverly melting down in public for the third time in three days, one of her most dramatic performances yet.  At home, we have a colorful new mural on our wall that is all in crayon & let's just say I didn't plan on it being there.  And currently, Waverly has decided that she no longer would like me to dress her because obviously, a 21-month old can handle that task all on her own. ;)

I know it's all part of the toddler territory & I need to put on my big girl pants & deal with it, but I would be lying if I didn't admit that my patience had been tested to the max.  I had a moment, questioned our discipline strategies (& why I publicly said how well they were working, doesn't that always come back to haunt you?!).  I totally felt like I had failed as a mom, but I have since moved on.  It's really hard not to, it's the same toddler tornado who causes the stress that always does something within minutes of it that makes your heart stop you love them so much. 
Yesterday, Waverly was playing on the porch all on her own (she had closed the screen door & said "mama, inside", "gogger, outside").  I put a few dishes away & looked back outside to Waverly sitting literally on top of Bogger, like he was a pony.  They sat there for a few minutes as I just watched from behind, I wish I could have caught a picture but I didn't want to disturb their sweet, peaceful moment.  Waverly spent the rest of the afternoon in her house, eating her snack & then, sharing the rest with "gogger".  The cutest.


 So, mom guilt.  I clearly believe in it & experience it more times than I want to.  I am convinced that it is built into one of the pregnancy hormones & then stays with you pretty much forever.  I have a feeling I will still get mom guilt even when my kids are grown & well out of the house.

I was one of those pregnant girls who was really careful, like over-careful, when it came to what I ate or what I did for that 10 months.  I remember being well into my third trimester & craving a bath so badly, I had read somewhere that I would "cook" the baby so I hadn't taken one since we found out we were expecting.  Yet I couldn't stop thinking about it (pregnancy craving?), so I made the water ice cold & froze myself to death just to take one.  Then I don't think I slept for a few days since I couldn't stop thinking that my baby girl was cooked inside my belly.  Mom guilt.
These days, Waverly is obviously my number one priority.  Not a moment goes by that I'm not thinking about what is best for her & how I can make it happen.  I know my husband feels the same way, but even he would tell you that he doesn't get the same "guilt" we do.  It's totally not fair, right?! ;)
 

I have no magical advice on how to deal with it, although I really wish I did! :)  Yet what I always think about is how amazing Waverly really is.  Overall, she is a such a happy, sweet-natured & smart little lady.  She gives me kisses every morning & hugs every night, she repeats "hi, mama" & grabs my face all day long.  Ultimately, there really is no better way to gain confidence as a mom than to look at your child, especially how much they love & adore you. 
There really isn't much better.

 
Thanks again to everyone who is involved in this link-up, I really have found it so helpful & inspiring!  See this post for details on how to be a part of it! :)  We hope you are all having the best week & that you are getting as excited for a 3-day holiday weekend that we are!  Enjoy every minute!!  XOXO
 

From Here to EternityWords About Waverly

my delicious adventure Photobucket
My Delicious Adventure                  The Life Of Faith

Running From The LawThe Olive Tree

         

An InLinkz Link-up

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

It's The Little Things: Week Sixteen

We recently had our first family day at the beach in 2014, a visit I have been so excited for & dreaming of all winter long!!  One of our favorite parts of living in VB is definitely the oceanfront,  we both grew up here so it's hard for us to imagine anything different.  We want the same thing for Waverly & just know she is going to love it just as much as we do.  Last summer she was still a little small (& a little more interested in eating the sand than putting her toes in it), so we didn't spend as much time there as usual.  I'm thinking this may just be her year.

It was still a little cold for our bathing suits, which was probably a good thing since I'm not really ready to debut the bikini body & also, we didn't have to worry about piling on the sunscreen (pale girl problems, sorry Waverly).  It was a perfect start to the season though, Waverly was obsessed with the "sila" & wouldn't take her eyes off of it.  Such a great family day, I can't wait for many more soon!


Besides lounging at the beach, also on the agenda for this summer is to have one little lady potty-trained! :) Waverly has been very, very interested in "diapa's" for quite a while now.  Right around the time she hit 18 months, she started repeating "diapa" everytime she needed to go, even sometimes pulling at it or her pants when she needed to be changed.  Our pediatrician told us to capitalize on it, that for some kids there is a window right around that time that you can catch.  I was definitely all about it (leaving diapers behind is one milestone I won't be emotional about), but after researching some, decided it was best to start when the weather was warmer & also, when I was on summer break so that we could be more consistent. 

 Fast forward to a few weeks ago, we went ahead & bought a potty chair since I figured it wouldn't hurt to start the process.  Waverly was actually really intrigued by it, she started wearing it as an accesory on top of her head, as a spot for her favorite toys, & many days, it stays in the living room with us.  Just in case she all of the sudden feels the need to use it (which hasn't happened yet).


So the other day I really thought we had made some major strides.  Waverly kept sitting on the potty & wouldn't let it out of her sight.  Later when we were in the bath, she kept saying "uh-oh" & when I asked her if she needed to use the potty, she responded with the most confident "yes".  I was so excited, I picked her right up from the bath & ran downstairs to the potty (still in the middle of the living room).  She sat there, but still wouldn't go & I kept thinking that she just hadn't really grasped it yet, that she didn't quite understand what it was meant for.  I definitely find that she learns best by watching what we do & know she always is, so I did it.  I really don't know what came over me, but I was that mom (there has been another one, right?!), that kneeled down & peed in her daughter's potty.  To say the least, Waverly was shocked & amazed.  After staring at me for a few seconds, she yelled "EW!!", one of the many new words she has picked up recently.

I will spare you a picture of me on the potty & if you are wondering, will let you know if my desperate attempt has any positive results soon.  So far, Waverly clearly remembers my move since she keeps pointing to her potty chair & saying "mama", she is really disapointed when I won't give a follow-up performance.  I definitely feel like I did my part & one time was enough.  Now it's her turn, right?! ;)

 As always, Jess & I want to thank you for your participation of this link-up each week!  If you need a reminder on how to participate, see this post.  We also want to congratulate Jessica Vucinaj for winning last week's giveaway from The Prettiest Bow.  We don't have a giveaway this week, if you are interested in working with us in giving back to our readers please email me at akwright@vbschools.com or Jess at jess@sadieskyboutique.com.
Hope you are having a great week! :)