Today marks the seventh Monday that I have left Waverly Maye for work this school year. I am happy to report that our family of three is in a really good routine. For the most part, our weeks run smoothly & most days, I (almost) feel like I have this “working mom” thing figured out. Yet if I’m honest, getting here hasn’t been easy. It turns out that this girl, while usually cheerful & happy as can be, is not as adaptable to a new social situation as I originally assumed she would be.
Last year, when Waverly Maye was an infant, she stayed with family/family friends everyday of the week. She rotated between my mom, sister-in-law, grandparents & a close friend who came to the house. The majority of the time, there were really no issues & Waverly seemed mostly unaffected by the situation.
From the very start, our plan for this year was to get Waverly in more of a constant environment (rather than four different places each week) & around other kids. So over the summer, I met with a friend of my husband’s family who runs a daycare from her home. She watches a couple of kids who were around Waverly’s age & her house was close to ours, so I assumed the situation would be perfect. Waverly has always been such a happy baby & although her crazy, outgoing personality keeps us on our toes, that same personality was what I thought had kept us from ever having to deal with seperation anxiety. Waverly LOVES people & has never been shy, especially around other kids.
My mom intuition was totally wrong in this case. Long story short, my non-crying baby cried through most of the first week at her new sitter’s house. It was emotionally painful & exhausting for all three of us. Yet even though I really wanted to immediately quit my job & hold her close all day long, all the books & advice we got convinced us that it would get better each day.
(that she would be all smiles again … )
It didn’t, instead it got worse. It got to the point that Waverly would cry when my husband pulled up to the driveway each morning, & when I pulled up the house in the afternoon, she was crying so loud I could hear her from my car. Totally gut-wrenching. The only thing harder than leaving your child each day is doing it & thinking about her feeling like that without me. For whatever reason, Waverly Maye could not adapt to that situation & at the end of the day, I had to do what I felt in my mommy heart was best for Waverly. We looked into our options & have since changed back to family each day, two of the days with Waverly at our house with a close friend. She is SO much happier, which to me, was first & foremost.
I am so appreciative of Waverly’s first official sitter for taking good care of our girl for that short time. I really wanted it to work, yet at this point, at still only one-year old, I just didn’t think it had to be time just yet. I do know that one day, I am not going to be able to “opt out” of kindergarden because Waverly cries & misses us (although I’m not promising I won’t want to … if that happens, I will obviously be crying to). In the meantime, something tells me we will have to face these seperation issues one day , so thoughts or suggestions are definitely welcome! 🙂
I just LOVE this girl to pieces & want to do what is best for her & her future.
Happy Monday, we hope everyone had a wonderful weekend! Looking forward to Trendy Tot Tuesday tomorrow, we may a fun little holiday look to share. 🙂